tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post5220723949203350507..comments2023-10-05T18:34:49.754-07:00Comments on Bossy Thing: Why I don't like Postcrossing any moreUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-57244854485285675902015-12-12T16:27:49.557-08:002015-12-12T16:27:49.557-08:00That's what a PO Box does for you.That's what a PO Box does for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-81431145155716734612015-10-04T13:57:00.301-07:002015-10-04T13:57:00.301-07:00I wish they would make the communication less dire...I wish they would make the communication less direct, by doing something like having everyone give their address to the website without making it public, then sending the cards to a central postcrossing address, and then the people there could put a sticker on it and send it to someone random. So the people sending and receiving don't get each other's addresses. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07758709888046254630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-10864342453011014232015-06-12T08:51:06.445-07:002015-06-12T08:51:06.445-07:00There's always the option of using a post offi...There's always the option of using a post office box if you are concerned about this. Also, you can only use your first name, and leave your email address off of the site. <br /><br />Last week, I actually had a man ask me to send him my underwear to Saudi Arabia, so I learned to not give my email address out anymore! :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-52326834298659828862015-03-15T21:22:20.767-07:002015-03-15T21:22:20.767-07:00You should use a PO Box so you don't have to w...You should use a PO Box so you don't have to worry about someone showing up to your home :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-59466088802883924342015-03-15T21:21:37.024-07:002015-03-15T21:21:37.024-07:00You should use a PO Box so you don't have to w...You should use a PO Box so you don't have to worry about someone showing up to your home :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-86082645935157382342014-12-11T07:06:26.656-08:002014-12-11T07:06:26.656-08:00I just started postcrossing about two months ago.
...I just started postcrossing about two months ago.<br />The majority of postcrossers seem to be female.<br />I have registered for some tags, which means giving out my address as well, and only one male postcrosser was among the posters.<br /><br />I think it is really just bad luck on your side.<br />In RL I did have a couple of rather strange (to creepy) expieriences with men. Once, I was bowling with some friends and an handicapped adult was on the lance next to us. I was talking to him in between playing.<br />The next weekend, he was there again - I was maybe 20, he was 45 - and he told me straight out that his mother (!) had suggested we marry and that she would even provide an apartment for us, so what would I think about it...!!!<br /><br />Similar things happened to me four times.<br />One man I met while shopping acually phoned me a couple of times - now I know NEVER to give my phone number out of politeness! - but stopped when I emphatically explained that I would not meet him, nor enter into a relationship.<br /><br />Some people are just strange and everyone has to decide for themselves where to draw the line.<br /><br />Yes, I do come from a "rich country" and postcrossers can google my address.<br />Contrary to others I do not have the possibility to give out my address without my real name.<br />I have sent a couple of postcards now, and surprisingly some to *nickname* or *first name only*.<br />Those kind cards would not reach me here.<br /><br />One more thing: IF I ever gave away my e-mail address, I would definitely NOT be my standard first-name-last-name-e-mail-address, but one of my nickname-e-mail-addresses!<br /><br /><br /><br />This statement from one of the posts above I found creepy, too:<br /><br />>>You wanted to be stalked because you're too beautiful.<<<br /><br />What the heck?!<br /><br />I certainly would think about what to put on the Internet and what not to.<br />I sometimes wonder at people posting pictures of redecorating their (big) house and giving their address in their about-section.<br />To me this reads like an invitation for burglars.<br /><br />On the other hand, people post all their private details, including photos on facebook & co. I do not participate in these sites but rarely hear about problems arising from that.<br />Giving out private details on the Internet seems to be normal for most users today.<br />Indeed, this sometimes spooks me out.<br /><br /><br /><br />Fidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10961601106724833521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-39339044400196974152014-12-02T03:16:35.105-08:002014-12-02T03:16:35.105-08:00Ha ha.Ha ha.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-87177468330837598732014-11-21T22:29:46.550-08:002014-11-21T22:29:46.550-08:00Thanks for your post. I started post crossing a co...Thanks for your post. I started post crossing a couple months ago and thanks to your post I will definetly not ever do direct swaps and if I decide to continue I clearly need to get a po box. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-67060717359725268362014-09-30T05:57:06.058-07:002014-09-30T05:57:06.058-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Tatianahttp://vagendamagazine.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-3836326357651232182014-09-30T05:33:23.840-07:002014-09-30T05:33:23.840-07:00Even though I am a pretty female Postcrosser from ...Even though I am a pretty female Postcrosser from a rich country (and have a pretty picture in my profile), I have always been able to ignore or say NO to any weird suggestions and refuse to do direct swaps. And no stalkers so far.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-74592346189957670032014-09-30T02:48:36.356-07:002014-09-30T02:48:36.356-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-3305338720429178732014-09-30T02:40:18.959-07:002014-09-30T02:40:18.959-07:00That's cuteThat's cuteAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14966881994606141293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-1807712371106992532014-09-30T02:17:49.765-07:002014-09-30T02:17:49.765-07:00I just bumped into your post, and I am very sorry ...I just bumped into your post, and I am very sorry you were so unfortunate to meet some of the creepy people on Postcrossing. Some of your issues could have been easily avoided though, and you can not blame the Postcrossing community for them. Your profile pic could have been anything and if you don't want to do private swaps, then don't, done. I do hope you reported the weirdos to Postcrossing, so they could be removed from the website. <br />I also hope that your love for sending and receiving mail isn't gone completely, there are many wonderful people out there who love to connect with others in just a friendly way and nothing more. Look around, maybe you'll find a website or community that suits you better (just stay away from interpals). TomoyoHimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18199684600494441112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-63382132957592695562014-09-30T02:14:27.727-07:002014-09-30T02:14:27.727-07:00So sad for you. After beeing on Postcrossing for m...So sad for you. After beeing on Postcrossing for many years. I have never been up to anything like stalkers etc.And I've meet many nice people true Postcrossing, both at the site, and in real life. Great people, all of them. And I never heard that any of them should have meet stalkes etc. either. I guess that you have been quit unlucky. But I never had put up a Picture of myself or anything like that. But honestly, your opinion about others using a lot of Money on Postcards and Stamps is quit nuts to me. you are in your full right to think, what you want, and use your Money on what ever your want, The same right have everybody else. So if they choose to spend thoussands of dollars on stamps and Cards, well that't their choise. If they do spend their Whole life sending and receiving Cards, it might be valuable for them, and they get something out of it. You have found out that it is more important to you to do something else with your life. Well thats fine. So do those Things thats important for you. but you serdantly don't need to pick on others hobbies. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-10255610821830749452014-09-30T01:21:04.079-07:002014-09-30T01:21:04.079-07:00Thank you for your article and opinion. I think ab...Thank you for your article and opinion. I think about how to be more safe about my personal data.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-37291197060652176882014-09-29T22:54:47.666-07:002014-09-29T22:54:47.666-07:00I'm really sorry you have bumped into that kin...I'm really sorry you have bumped into that kind of Postcrossers and have also some idea how annoying and perhaps frightening it is. I would be annoyed and frightened, too! What a luck I have never run into these kind of problems, even if I'm a female in a rich country (Finland). Well, the difference might be that Finland is not so "wanted" country as USA, I don't have my photo in my profile, I don't do private swaps, and I have mentioned my boyfriend in my profile. Not a perfect dating partner, do you think? Anyway, Postcrossing should be a harassment-free hobby for everyone, even if they're young females in USA and have their photo in the profile...<br /><br />Postcrossing should really take some action about this, for example, banning stalkers' accounts or something, just being able to register the cards they receive. I don't know how common this kind of harassment is. I wish your case was an exception but knowing what kind of jerks there are in internet, I'm feeling kind of bad about this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-76163629679103998772014-09-29T19:54:04.325-07:002014-09-29T19:54:04.325-07:00You all have the control over to whom you wanted t...You all have the control over to whom you wanted to swap postcards with. You do not need to please everyone. Just simply say No if you feel you do not need to swap. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-91453683514107255642014-09-29T15:42:50.075-07:002014-09-29T15:42:50.075-07:00"Can't help being beautiful?" Lol. Y..."Can't help being beautiful?" Lol. You could have changed your profile picture. You could've used a PO box. And you could've changed the option not to have direct swap. You wanted to be stalked because you're too beautiful. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-20269317944815017502014-09-29T15:05:58.291-07:002014-09-29T15:05:58.291-07:00Well, everyone makes mistakes, we all should get o...Well, everyone makes mistakes, we all should get over it. Although, as you probably know there are options in Postcrossing profile settings that allows you to stay more "anonymous" (not giving your date of birth, profile picture etc ) or course not including the same address. I think you just wasn't very lucky over there, it happens, pretty rarely but still. <br /><br />I just hope you were really enjoyed by Postcrossing, before these strange behaviours. It's seriously great project and opened my mind and thoughts for many things. <br /><br />Wish you good luck in embroidery then! :)<br />SebastianMaxushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01226602842206208477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-27915502673607582822014-09-29T14:23:46.424-07:002014-09-29T14:23:46.424-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-64036033843143204562014-09-29T14:11:34.757-07:002014-09-29T14:11:34.757-07:00I think if someone spent thousands sending postcar...I think if someone spent thousands sending postcards, who are you to be critical? It is a HOBBY...sort of like collecting antique or taking art classes. I think it's sad for you to criticize others. Btw, sorry you are so pretty that all of these men want you :-/ that whole statement makes you sound narcissistic and self absorbed. You're really not THAT important to people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-52217765804038685522014-08-18T08:41:56.766-07:002014-08-18T08:41:56.766-07:00There is no biological imperative to be a creep, o...There is no biological imperative to be a creep, on the internet or elsewhere. Saying it's because she's young and pretty (is a false correlation and) puts the responsibility of the stalking on her instead of on the actual stalker. You're blaming the victim.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-79065465790043547252014-08-09T09:53:26.772-07:002014-08-09T09:53:26.772-07:00Anyone can try Postcrossing and have an opinion on...Anyone can try Postcrossing and have an opinion on it, however juvenile.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14966881994606141293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-71984379213102809422014-07-28T19:52:54.341-07:002014-07-28T19:52:54.341-07:00She sounds very juvenileShe sounds very juvenileAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606793453715716925.post-46484393678472374372014-07-14T21:16:30.973-07:002014-07-14T21:16:30.973-07:00She had the right to say those things. Some people...She had the right to say those things. Some people just don't know how to keep away from private info. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com